Birthing children is a monumental rite of passage and it can be really hard. Then you're expected to know just how to feed, love, and comfort them. And yourself. And perhaps your partner. And hopefully, also your own dreams, vitality, and joy. That's a really tall order. I can help.
For Postpartum clients, I offer in-depth in-person support at my office in San Francisco. (I'm also available by phone and email, of course.) This program is centered around helping clients cultivate tenderness, support, and a wee bit of space during what can be a really daunting, tiring time. Our work together is a journey toward integration of the birth experience and the new parent role, with a focus on self-expression that often culminates in a creative, client-driven piece (poetry, art, performance, etc.) made to honor this transition.
If you'd like to see if working together feels like a good fit, schedule a free phone consultation here—I'd love to chat with you! (And BTW, I don't mind one bit if there's a baby squawking in the background—that's how I know you're legit!)
They don't call it "labor" for nothing! Many mothers come out of the birth experience exhausted, isolated, blindsided, and even traumatized. After giving birth, some folks fall into the "just fine" camp, while others struggle with loss or clinical postpartum depression. For those of us somewhere in the middle—who are not really okay, who cannot clearly remember who we were before (nor how it felt to be her), but who are, as they say, "functioning" in the midst of this gargantuan emotional and physical breaking-open—what do we do?
Based on my own birth & parenting journey, along with my work in psychotherapy and coaching, I offer safe and transformative space for moms of all kinds to share, process, and integrate their birth experiences. This re-telling can be especially helpful for folks working through traumatic or disempowering birth experiences, and/or difficult postpartum recoveries.
Integrating Your New Role
Most people go through a serious period of adjustment as they step into parenthood. The phrase "on the job training" comes to mind. (Also "trial by fire", "sleep walking", and perhaps the absolute most bedrock version of "faking it till you make it"). The first step toward integrating this new role, is acknowledging its newness and hugeness in your life. Because you and your partner or fellow caretakers are probably each adjusting to all of this, it can be super helpful to find someone outside of the family system to process with.
As a mama myself, I have a deep commitment to supporting folks on their journey to fully step into parenthood, baby love, and sustained self-connection. This is new. You are not supposed to just magically know exactly how to do it. Even if this is not your first child, this is your first this child. For the most part, what they need is so much simpler than the mommy fear-mongerers would have us believe, and you may be needing a whole lot more.
Reclaiming your Whole Identity
You are a parent. You are forever changed. And you also get to be yourself. You get to be not-so-changed. You can expand to accommodate this new love, rather than contracting around it. You have interests and passions and relationships (and sovereignty and identity) beyond your role as a parent. You get to play all sorts of roles in your life, as you always have. This is not about your own personal reenactment of Bad Moms (though I'm not judging!)—it is about something way, way bigger: it is about your right to dimensionality and self care.
What was important to you before? What is still important now? What feels newly important? What fills you up in such a way that you can more fully show up in your life, and within your family? These are the types of questions we can explore. Let's go!